Updated: Jan 8, 2021
We live in a society that likes to tell us what to wear, how to act, how we should style our hair, what we should and should not do. A society that values how a person looks on the outside, more than what is going on in the inside. We are expected to look a certain way, to fit into the mold, blend in yet stand out so not to be forgotten. But what does that even mean?!
It can be so easy to get sucked into this mindset of not feeling adequate enough, comparing ourselves to our neighbors, and just flat out not loving ourselves.
I am here to tell you that you do not have to fit into any mold, and that being you is absolutely good enough.
If you cannot accept just how worthy you are and how exceptionally special you are, how do you suppose you will be able to let someone else think this about you? Before you begin any kind of relationship with someone you must learn to love who are first and foremost.
Be okay with who you are, love who that person is… recognize all the amazing talents, values, skills, everything that makes you, well, you!
I have learned that if I cannot love myself first, then it is a lot harder to accept that someone else could possibly love me. I have also learned that, longing for a relationship just because I think I am lonely, or because everyone else is in a relationship so I should be too, is not loving me first.
Learning to love yourself first means being okay with being alone, of course not forever, and trust me you will not be alone forever; but you just have to be okay and love the person who you are when alone.
Learn to love yourself first, and foremost, and then the rest will start falling into place. Just wait, you’ll see.