Love Yourself… But Don’t Settle for Yourself! - A Word of Advice For Girls, PART 2
- by Alexis Jordan Sargent, Think Twice Educator So, we talked about loving ourselves and embracing who we are as individuals and how to be okay with being ourselves in this previous article. But now let’s talk about, not just settling for ourselves.
Here’s what I mean by that:
The world is always changing, right? We can see a lot of these changes- the leaves changing colors, new trees growing, the seasons changing; but there are also changes that sometimes we do not see.
The same is true for us. As you grow you will notice that you will start to change... and that is fantastic! You should constantly be growing and changing. Some of these changes are visibly noticeable; you grow taller, you begin to grow some muscle and look much stronger, maybe you decide to try a new haircut every few months. These are changes that people can see clearly right off the bat.
But what about the changes that happen inside? Do you know what I mean by this? Let me give you an example. When I was younger, I really believed that everything would sort of just fall into place around me. I thought I would go to high school, graduate, attend college, get my bachelor’s and everything would work itself out. I would get a good job, make good money, and live my very best life.
I. Was. So. Wrong.
I thought all of this was going to happen for me, well because I was a pretty decent human being, so it would make sense, right? Wrong!!
You have to be willing to put in the work and build a life you want to live. The way my life has gone is not at all how I thought it would. But you know what? I would not trade a second of it for anything else. Because I worked for it and I began to grow as a person, and I started discovering who I was more, and I really love that person. The person who is determined, hard- working, kind, and loving.
I want you to realize that you should love yourself, absolutely… duh! But I also do not want you to settle for who you are right now at this very moment. Because if you think your life is going to happen in a certain way because of who you are right now, well I hate to be the one to burst your bubble, it just does not happen that way.
Be okay and embrace the changes you will go through. You should not want to stay the same forever, that would be kind of boring! It is so much fun discovering who you are more as you grow up.
So, love yourself first always, but never settle for yourself, either. And, grow through what you go through.