Is it Mr. Right/Ms. Right?
by Marina Paredes, Think Twice Educator
When we are young, we tend to wonder if we will ever meet our other half. Sometimes we see others and think that they found their perfect match. Let me tell you that most people don’t stay with their first love. It may feel at the moment that the person is your everything in this world but eventually all those “love chemicals” are going to settle and you are going to start to see all the flaws in that person. Don’t get me wrong, it’s good to be able to see each flaw. No one is perfect in this world and you could always make changes to improve what you don’t like about yourself. But you definitely can’t change another person. They have to have the will to work on themselves. The two of you also have to work together if the relationship is going to last. Again, I am not saying that people never stay with their high school sweetheart. But only a few people find the love of their life in the first try.
Now let’s talk about if you think you have the one perfect person for you. I’m going to tell you about my personal experience. When I was 16 years old, I thought I had met the love of my life. He was perfect according to me and I really thought I was going to be with that person forever. Guess what, we dated for two years and everything was great, but one day I noticed he didn’t complete me. There was something missing so eventually our relationship ended and both of us ended going our own paths. Then I met someone else and he was definitely the wrong match. When you are in a relationship you have to feel loved and respected. You should never be crying over a relationship, only happy tears are allowed. No matter if you are a girl or a boy no one should make you cry. In this relationship I felt unloved and there was no respect that person made me unhappy. I sometimes felt like I had to change myself for that person to love me. That was definitely not real love. Now it’s obvious that he was not my right match, but at the moment I wasn’t able to see it. He never hurt me physically but he sure hurt me emotionally. Absolutely no one should make you feel small. You deserve to be loved and respected. If you do find yourself in a relationship like this, get out of it as soon as possible. I am so glad the relationship I was in ended.
One day, out of nowhere, I met the love of my life. He is now my husband. You guys want to know how I knew he was the right one. I felt loved, cared for, and respected. He gave me the butterflies in my stomach. All relationships require effort and love. No relationship is perfect. Love is like a plant you have to water it every day for it to bloom. Don’t settle if you think you haven’t found your Mr./Ms. Right. You are going to know if they are your perfect match when that person brings out the best you. Remember, everyone is different. Just because your best friend found the love of their life right away doesn’t mean you have the same timeline. Don’t rush things. Date and try to know a person before getting into a serious relationship.