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How do you find love?

- by Yazmin Zepeda, Think Twice Educator

Love. Everyone wants it. Everyone needs it. But not everyone knows what it really is.

How do you find love?

Love isn’t something you find. It is something that finds you and the more you look for it, the more caught up in infatuation you’ll be. Infatuation is a lot similar to love. It is intense and filled with emotions for one another. Although infatuation can produce the same feelings, it doesn’t always produce the same endings as real love. It is important to know the difference to get you closer to what you’re really looking for.

Telling the difference between love and infatuation.

Time is the ultimate test for what is real and what is not. Real love will not fleet. Infatuation though, has a short shelf life. It is only an illusion of love. Infatuation takes off fast and furious.

When you are infatuated with someone, you become lost in the emotion of unreasoning desire. It’s stupidity.. or cupidity. It’s addicting and it’ll conclude in you risking it all for a lustful moment. Infatuation will leave you feeling empty and wanting more. It brings urgency, intensity, sexual desire, anxiety, high risk choices, recklessness. Meanwhile, love is secured, peaceful and solid. With love, a deep affection for each other is created through the process of friendship. Love builds and grows through sacrifice and compromise. Love feels like contentment. Love brings confidence. Love is work as it means you are putting someone else before yourself. It is a gradual process that requires patience. Love requires partnership and provides a codependency that isn’t tampered with self-awareness and self-guidance. Infatuation could potentially lead into love, it doesn’t always but it starts with recognizing what’s best for the both of you. If you want what’s best for yourself, that is infatuation. If you want what’s best for your person, that is love.

How does love find you?

The best way to help love find you is by recognizing you are love. What does that mean? Recognize YOU ARE LOVE. You are the greatest feeling ever. You own it within. We all love and are all capable of extending it by implementing it on ourselves first. Having a great interest in yourself will result in great care for yourself. Great care for yourself will lead to great deals for yourself. Great deals for yourself will lead to great trade-ins. And great trade-ins include great connections. And great connections will give you what you’re looking for. Embrace the love you have within and it’ll mirror in others.

Your next move.

At the end of the day, there is nothing wrong with infatuation. It can serve a purpose in your life as you get to know what’s best for yourself. Take a moment to recognize your current affairs. Is it love? Is it infatuation? Is it potential love? Being infatuated with someone can lead to love but you’ll learn to realize that true love is what holds more and gives more.

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